Danielle LaPorte is big, very big, on living your life intentionally with feelings as your guide. So this year, instead of a word to guide me, I finally hit upon the perfect feeling that I want as my guide through 2020.
I’d thought of joy, serenity, wonder, amusement, sparkly…and lighthearted covers them all. This year has been SO damned serious, both globally, locally, online, personally; I’m ready for a whole lot less of that.
A couple months ago I turned 56, and all the thoughts in my head that had building for a few years completely exploded in my head, diving me into some deep existential angst. Things that I’d never worried about were now front and center, and I’m not liking this at all.
So many whys.
From the vast, such as why are we here? What is the point of our existence? Why do we push and struggle so hard when the vast majority of us won’t leave any mark at all? Why do we do anything if it doesn’t mean anything? And if it doesn’t mean anything, does that mean that it should mean something to us to give this life meaning??
To things such as, why have we gone from mostly supportive blogging communities to instant social media sites that are making so many of us miserable and stressed? Why is fast so important? Why isn’t deeper communication meaningful anymore? Why is everyone staring at their phones all the time, even when walking down the street? Why is being constantly connected online so important now?
To the menial things that now drive me nuts daily. WHY are there so many trinkets in my house that I keep even though I barely look at them?? Why is there so much clutter?? Why do I save things on my computer when I am so much an ‘out of sight, out of mind’ person?
It all comes down to one question:
What is the point of it all???
Rilke famously wrote, “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”
I’m trying, but it feels like the wheel is spinning faster and faster, and the questions get bigger and deeper…as well as more inane at times. And i don’t feel any closer to the answers, do you?
My word for next year is, as mentioned before, transformation, but how I want to feel is just as important, thanks to Danielle LaPorte. Last night I was pondering the idea, and “lighter” popped into my head. Lighter physically, emotionally… just in every way. Life has become heavy and I want to let that go.
“Comfort” was the next word, and then another popped in, and before I knew it the words from the definition of hygge that I found “comfort, joy, and courage” completed the list. Four simple words that mean so much to me.
And the thing is, by feeling those three words, I’ll feel lighter, too!
Do you use feelings as your guiding light in life? Not in the Law of Attraction way, but just as signposts to help you along your path? What words come to mind for next year?
PS: On Twitter GetGonetheMovi1 posted a response to Ed Solomon’s tweet concerning the correct pronunciation of Happy New Year (I can’t find his tweet now and suspect it was deleted because people took it seriously), and now I can’t get it out of my head. I’ve been adding specific calendars to it, so, Joyous Gregorian Calendar Renewal to you! 🙂 Let’s hope next year is better beyond imagination!
Amanda, of MagnoliaYogaBr , sent out her first newsletter with monthly prompts in quite a few years. I’m so excited!!!
Yesterday the prompt was “Perfect Day”. And it was! Mornings have taken on a routine, starting with feeding the cat, then then dogs, and now the crows and the birds. The crows came back to the neighborhood on the 30th (timing), and they call out when they come in the mornings, waking me and starting my day.
Usually we babysit on Thursday, but didn’t yesterday, so I was able to sit outside and read…something I haven’t done almost all summer because of the heat. I’m just beginning “Shadow of Night” by Deborah Harkness, and I’m loving this series!! History, witches, vampires, daemons…it’s got it all.
Today’s prompt is “Take Steps”. Doing these prompts here is a big step. I’ve fallen out of the habit of writing, and my domain name needs to be renewed sometime this month, so responses (and clients) will give me a reading and tell me whether to keep it all or let it go.
Do you want to join along? The link to sign up for the newsletter is in Amanda’s bio!
The past weeks have been…I don’t really think there is a word for it. I’m sure another language has the perfect word for being horrified, despairing, raging, and heartbroken all in one, but I don’t know what it is.
Today, though, today is the solstice. When we have the longest day of the year. Tons of sun. Which, quite frankly, for someone living in the high desert of the southwest, is not necessarily a good thing. Melting comes to mind.
You know what, I’m going to be honest…I had a post all ready in my head about the balance of day and night, how it was the Hanged Man, the still point…and then as I started writing this, I realized I had the wrong time of the year. Yes, I’ve been that distracted lately. I find myself driving and getting lost in my head, as if I’m daydreaming; I go to the grocery store and almost start wandering aimlessly, as if I’ve lost my memory.
I haven’t, but it feels like it. Concentrating is difficult lately, and I’m finding that sometimes when I stand up it feels as if I’ve sprained one ankle or the other, and I haven’t. A friend with fibro says it’s a symptom of it, and all I can think is, great, yet another pain.
Oh, I restarted my Instagram account because I needed the app on my phone for the bookstore’s account, and well…in for a penny, in for a pound, right? As soon as I posted about the free sessions, I received an email that someone had bought a cup of coffee/aka sparkling water. Yeah, the power of Instagram is amazing, so I’m trying to use it more. Plus, Twitter, which I love, is so full of everything that’s going on, and pictures are a nice distraction quite frankly.
Ever since the election, I’ve been in a state of, well, quite frankly, “Define Interesting.” “Oh god, oh god, we’re all gonna die.”* Rage, fear, stress, depression, despair, helplessness…you name it. So many of us have been – and it’s draining us.
I’ve been caught in the quicksand, unable to pull myself out, finding myself retweeting post after post, unable to step back and not feed the beast. I didn’t know how else to make a difference, but I think in reality, I was just another person making things a little bit worse with the endless focus on the negative. I haven’t been mindful of what I’ve been adding to the mix, and I apologize to those who have been caught up in my fear. I’m fairly sure I’ve lost a friend or two along the way, and that saddens me.
This morning I woke, checked Twitter, and slowly it dawned on me that I *can* make a difference, one that is more subtle, but no less important than helping bring to light all the darkness that’s been festering for too long. I’m a lightworker. I’m supposed to be working on the side of service, not regurgitating negativity. As my friend Michael said, “Be the light, Pip. Be the light.”
By working to help others feel better via distance healing sessions, I, and others who have this ability, can begin aiding souls so stuck in that quicksand that they’ve lost hope of ever getting out. Souls that have been abused and are still to afraid to talk about it, souls that endure racism and hatred daily, souls that have lost all hope.
I can’t change your life, but I can ease some of the stress and pain for a bit. I can help bring “healing harmony” (thanks, Alice, for coming up with that phrase to describe what I do!) to your mind and body, giving you a time of peace in which to feel comforted and rested.
I hope you’ll do me the honor of allowing me to help you in whatever small way I can. I offer sessions for $1.00 a minute, and I also have more intense sessions that work to help you speak your truth, which has a different price structure.
I look forward to being of service, and I promise to slow down on all the retweets! 🙂
Yes, we turn the clocks forward an hour, so technically it is a true moniker, but in reality, it’s far from it.
Example: you’re in a nice routine, hitting the sack at 10pm ST (Standard Time) and rising at 6. Almost to the point where you don’t need an alarm. It’s winter, so it gets dark early, as it has since the world began, and once the winter solstice hit, you started to notice the normal, slow lengthening of the days. Spring is on its way!
Then, earlier this year than ever before, Daylight Savings comes along. Many, like me, grumble and rail against the change; others love the “hour more of sunlight!”
Let me explain that “hour more”. It’s not. What DST is, in reality, is a setting back of our body clocks* one hour, plain and simple. In exchange for what Mother Nature was gradually bringing us anyway. Yes, you get home from work at 7DST and there’s still a bit of sunlight left, but at what cost?
At night your comfortable 10pm bedtime is now, thanks to DST, actually 9pm body clock time. So you’re not getting an extra hour of light, you’re losing an hour of time before bed! If you stay up until you get actually sleepy, the clock reads 11, which isn’t enough sleep time. And in the morning your 6 am is now 7DST, so you have to wake up (body clock) at 5. Everything is back an hour. And I don’t know about you, but having to go to bed when I’m NOT tired in order to get up an hour earlier when I AM tired to fit the clock is a really, really grumbly, completely ridiculous change.
If everyone would just be patient and let things roll in their own time, we’d have gained that “extra hour of sunlight” soon enough, without the stress to our bodies. Doesn’t that make more sense in the long run?
*Standard Time (aka ST) and body-clock time are interchangeable terms.
PS: Stress takes quite the toll on our bodies, in both obvious ways and ones we don’t know about until something major happens to us. Energy healing can help soothe and relieve some of that stress, no matter where you are in the world. A session is $1.00 a minute, 20-minute minimum. 🙂
I’ve become quite the proponent for cyber security this year (driving some of my friends and family a bit nuts in the process), and firmly believe that every single one of us MUST make it a priority before January 20th, 2017. It’s time to take charge of our safety, and not trust the big companies to do it for us, especially since they’ve shown themselves to be lacking in that department.
Below are 4 services that I use and highly recommend, and really, really hope more people use (I need to add to my lists!!).
First off, DuckDuckGo. The search engine that doesn’t track you. Someone mentioned Bing today, and quite honestly, I’d forgotten about it, I’ve used DDG for so long!
For emails, I use Virtru. End-to-end encryption for those who use it, and it allows for the fact that some (too many) will opt-out, allowing you to use the service for everyone.
My new favorite is Seald. You are able to encrypt part or all of a message…on a public site!!! So far I only have one friend using it, but believe me – especially all you FB lovers – you want to use this for all your sites. It doesn’t work for Twitter (the encryption is too long), but I keep meaning to try it with TwitLonger and see if it works then.
Only the intended recipient (who, of course, must be using Seald, also) can click on that blue box and have the message show up; anyone else is just left hanging. It’s brilliant! If I know you and you sign up for it (DO!!!), let me know so I can add you to my contact list. Also, if you have any questions on how to use it, feel free to ask, or you can go directly to the chat box on the website. They have exceptional customer service!
Seald can also be used in emails, too, so you can opt to use this instead of Virtru, but again, the recipient must use the service to read the messages.
Last, and almost most important of all, is Signal, an app for your cell phone (that you can also use on your desktop). You can make private phones calls to other users, and your text messages are private, also. I tried to take a screenshot of what it looks like on my phone, but Open Whispers has brilliantly made it SO private that it won’t allow screenshots. You can use the service and still text to non-users, and it always asks if you want to invite them and let’s you know it’s an unlocked text. Seriously, gang, if you don’t use any others, GET THIS. You know you live on your phone, and this prevents others from reading/listening in. I really wish more of my phone contacts would sign up.
Be safe, everyone. Don’t regret later that you weren’t, ok? This is really, really important. Even the most mundane text can be mined for information, and we all know everything online is receiving the same treatment.